Time for a Group Revamp! (Letter 13)

One of the groups I started four years ago has played well together, and after about nine months, we began playing for money. Since September ’24, we’ve had many new and occasional players join. Some are slower at figuring out hands, prefer not to play for money, or “forget” their money, ending up at tables with players who do want to wager.

While the money players say, “It’s OK,” they later express frustration that non-money players are slower, less defensive, and struggle with strategy. I agree, but I’m unsure how to separate money and non-money tables without causing hard feelings. I believe the newer players will eventually want to play for money, but they need more time to build confidence.

Seeking Harmony

Dear Seeking Harmony,

I’ve encountered this situation before, and it’s great that you’re being proactive about it. Over time, differences in play style and stakes can lead to tension, so a group revamp is a smart move! Here are a couple options to consider:

Option 1: Separate Sessions by Play Style
Open Play ($5 pie): Players of all skill levels mix, and everyone is expected to play with anyone, regardless of experience.

Advanced Play: A faster-paced session where players are comfortable with a 15-minute game (no pie/no loss limit).

Option 2: Mixed Sessions with Clear Table Distinctions
If hosting separate sessions isn’t feasible, use table markers (such as different-colored table mats) to distinguish casual (no money) from competitive (money play) tables. This allows players to self-select based on their comfort level.

Hold a meeting to acknowledge the group’s growth and evolving dynamics. Present these options and let members provide input. Accept that not eveyrone will be happy, and that’s ok. No single solution will work perfectly for everyone, and some players may not like the changes which is natural in any growing group. The goal is to create an environment where the majority feels comfortable and the expectations are clear. Those who prefer something different may find another group that better suits their style.

Consider creating a group charter to set clear expectations while maintaining the group’s friendly and welcoming atmosphere.